I’ve spoken about this in Facebook and Instagram lives, created posts about this and yet still, there are many who are left with the feeling of guilt.
This will literally stop so many caregivers and parents in their tracks.
There are many reasons why one may feel guilt. Guilt after hearing the diagnosis of your child, guilt from learning to accept that your child was born with different needs.
While parents of neurotypical kids dream of their child getting straight A’s, you are just dreaming that he/she can identify the letters of the Alphabet.
And then to add Self-Care into the mix. ‘That’ll send you in a tizzy’.
Guilt is a real feeling you guys.
But so, is having your dignity and pride.
Let’s be clear on this.
When you say to someone that you don’t practice Self-Care.
What you’re really saying, is that you have an imbalance.
Great news! This isn’t permanent, unless you choose it to be.
In reality, you just haven’t figured out how to incorporate both family responsibilities and self-care into your bubble.
Imbalance doesn’t mean you have failed at self-care.
It means you have an opportunity to get it right. You can learn to integrate it into your lifestyle.
Perhaps, part of the guilt that you’re feeling is the admittance of self-care being close to non-existent for so long.
Or because you believe that your child needs you and can’t imagine being away from them.
The not so nice comments about your child sparking guilt and rage all over again.
Truth? You know I never hold back.
Guilt drains energy and causes you to be stuck in the past and destroys any confidence that you have in your abilities as a Special Needs parent.
A great article that outlines Self-care versus Guilt can be found here
Don’t do this to yourself.
You don’t want to live your life like this. There are resources available to help you through this.
Part of what Scratch Made prides themselves in is teaching parents to be actively engaged with their family by first learning to develop a healthy mindset as an individual.
The next time someone asks you, “What do you need?” Give them an honest response.
Don’t feel guilty for someone prompting you to think about you. You should be concerned for yourself.
View it as that friendly nudge that is reminding you to get your personal affairs in order so that you can fully devote energy to parenting a child with complex needs.
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